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Conscious Living is just that – living consciously.
I have heard the concept described under a heap of different names – mindfulness is one commonly used – it consists simply of being aware of what is happening around you. Conscious living extends the awareness into the dream-state. Someone with a high degree of awareness will have observed the universal laws at work and can actively include them in their daily activities to ensure more success in their endeavours.

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What is Conscious Living?

There are two parts to Living Consciously. They are:

  • Mindfulness and
  • Discipline

Initially our mind, our everything, is undisciplined and noisy. It is our task to change this.

The easiest way to do so is to envisage the smart part of you sitting on your shoulder 24/7.

It sees and feels everything going on inside and outside you. It can alert you quickly when you err. It sees and feels everything. You must complete the required actions yourself.

The first thing you will notice is that you start to convert your dreams from scripted role-playing with no choice, to self-directed experiences (lucid dreaming). You are conscious more of the day – this is a real bonus.

Add to this practice a set of special mental and energy exercises and you have a full development system. The basic principle of this system is that the “Mindfulness” prepares the way, the exercises clear and strengthen then tune abilities.

The Goal of Living Consciously

The goal of conscious living is to engender an Attitude of Positivity and Gratefulness as well as a desire for inner tranquillity. These are the precursors of advancement.

The Benefits of Conscious Living

Conscious living has many benefits for the mind, body and spirit. Some of these are:

  • Health
  • Wealth
  • Happiness

Well what can I say? There are many. The most obvious is that you are no longer a slave to mood and emotion.

The next most obvious is that you are able to spot opportunity much easier (and earlier) and are more aware so do not fall for as many of life’s little traps.

Because you are more aware of yourself, you are more sensitive to your overall health and emotional state. You are also able to use intelligence as a tool.

Situational Awareness

Situational awareness is a term used extensively by military and police type forces – it means being very aware of what is happening around you

Conscious living is 24/7 situational awareness.

The difference in the concepts is that conscious living extends the awareness into the dream-state so the goal is to be conscious and aware 24/7+.

The benefits of this practice are many – it extends into all aspects of life – health, wealth and relationships are all affected. A person practising conscious living has a better control of moods and is very aware of the importance of attitude.

They are also less likely to be misled as they are practising a form of total watchfulness which monitors both inside their mind as well as being observant of what is happening nearby.

That sounds like hard work – it is not. It rapidly becomes a habit and the alertness and awareness can assist you greatly in your daily life. The first benefit is greater choice and of course you miss less opportunities. That is a real bonus.

The Discipline of Conscious Living

What is needed is to imagine a little you sitting on your shoulder who can see everything including what you are thinking. Do not confuse this with the conscience – different guy (or gal).

Now you are conscious of both your actions and your thoughts. There is a “smart” you and the everyday you. The smart you – the watcher – does just that – only watches. In a very short time you will be able to identify more with the watcher and see your behaviour through his or her eyes.

The task of the Sacred Watcher is not to change your actions or thoughts – simply to help you become more aware of them.

I will expand on this concept later – but it is important to know it exists.

Practice Mindfulness

Awareness / mindfulness is essentially being constantly cognisant of what is going on around you. It is a form of intensified observation. Once this practice is established, you can then move deeper into self development.

Awareness utilises all the senses including being aware of feelings. Police and military are trained to be alert, to be aware and observant – it keeps them alive.

Watch Your Thoughts

The first part of mindfulness training is to watch your thoughts. Initially, allow them to progress unchecked. Be aware of the number and type of your thoughts. Are they light, are they dark?

Notice how repetitive they are. Do not be tempted to curb them, just accept them watchfully. You need to research the changes you will be making, and you do not want to modify anything by judgement. Just observe.

Correct Your Thoughts

Once you have experienced your unrestrained mind for a period, it is time to rein it in.

Continue watching your thoughts. When you notice one that does not pass muster, simply say to yourself “Correction” and replay the thought as you wish it to be. Your mind will rebel at this treatment. Next time it slips up, say “Correction” and replay the thought as you wish it to be.

After a period, you will notice that your mind is apparently behaving more but getting sneaky about the thoughts it presents. Do not tolerate any backsliding and correct it at every opportunity.

Maintain this discipline until you find that you are thinking only the type of thoughts you desire.

Do not progress until the chatter in your head is quieted and has become a more pleasant space to inhabit.

Be mindful of your thoughts.

They can betray you elsewhere in the timeline.

Watch Your Moods

The next one is far more subtle. Your moods are often just there and have been there for a while before you notice them. As you did for the thoughts, just observe and allow them the freedom to express.

After modifying your thought patterns, you have sufficient self-discipline to allow the mood but curb your thoughts and actions.

During this period, ponder over your moods, what causes them. Do you have a set of trigger points? What are they? Why? They cannot be that important. Are they valid? What caused them to be created?

Correct Your Moods

Now, like your thoughts, begin to curb your unwanted moods. A mood should never control you. They are more dangerous than thoughts as they can instigate uncontrolled actions that you regret later.

Once you have achieved a modicum of mood control, you will notice that you have the luxury of much more “head time”. This is the beginning of a glorious freedom.

Again, as with thoughts, you will need self-discipline to avoid any backsliding. This one is in some ways easier as your mind knows that you are “the boss” and does not try as much on. It is however much more subtle at this level.

Bad moods cause low energy which makes self management more difficult.

By now, your mind is a much quieter, more pleasant place to inhabit. You may notice thoughts that are not yours. This is the beginning of telepathy, a mixture of thought and feeling.

Pay attention to the “feel” and “voice” of the thought. Often it is just mental chatter from someone else. Sometimes it is advice and guidance from your guides and teachers. Sometimes it is the mind of the person you are talking with. Very handy if you are negotiating.

Manage your Habits

Now you can start identifying chosen habits and replacing them. Joy, happiness and proactive behaviour is a habit, not a mood.

You do not need to “break” habits, simply replace them. Once the new behaviour has been instigated about 100 times, the old habits are generally gone – Ish. They never truly die but lurk awaiting their trigger situation.

Your new awareness will usually catch them as they try to do their thing.

Constant Mindfulness is again the answer.

Always make your bed when you leave it.

Two reasons.

  • You feel better about yourself having achieved something first up and
  • It feels nice to hop into a made bed when you need it next

Watch Your Attention – where and what

Attention has both positive and negative aspects. Be mindful of your attention. Be mindful of where and when it wanders. Are you concentrating or floating? Are you here and now or drifting off to the future or past?

As usual, observe without judging or changing. You are collecting data.

Correct Your Attention – where and what

The term “pay attention” is totally accurate – PAY attention. When you are having a conversation or are in a meeting keep your attention on the other party. Pay 100% attention to that person and flow energy toward them. Do maintain mindfulness of your environment.

Remember the old saying

Where the attention goes, the energy flows.

This will energise your partner or the current speaker and allow them to speak to the highest good. If they are energised, they can come up with better concepts because they are more open to guide assistance whether they know it or not.

This technique will assist you to retain your energy. When you are floating or wandering in time and space you are expending energy to no benefit. When you are focused and concentrating your attention your power is building in your chosen NOW.

In this state you can consciously manifest many things and situations.

When you are eating, just eat. Be aware of the flavour of the food, the taste, the aftertaste, the texture, the smell. Be aware of your technique with your eating irons. Make eating an event. Do not chatter or think about anything else – YOU ARE EATING!

When you are on the toilet, you are on the toilet. Be aware of the process. Stay focused. Do not think of anything else.

When performing your ablutions, that is all you are doing. Focus on the process – YOU ARE CLEANSING!

I mention these daily tasks as they are the times when your mind is clearest. They are daily rituals. This is when those important thoughts can be noticed.

Control Dramas

This one requires a little more discipline, and mindfulness.

Because the majority of humanity see themselves as disconnected from the universal energy, they steal energy from each other leading to some truly nasty behaviour like mind games. This is where mindfulness comes in.

There are 4 primary control dramas made common knowledge by James Redfield in his book Celestine Prophecy.

They are:

  • Interrogator
  • Aloof
  • Intimidator
  • Poor Me


The Interrogator will trap their victim by making a statement that is derogatory. The response is often heated – again a stream of energy is directed at the victim’s tormentor.

The aggressor is usually quick mentally and turns the reply into a negative and passes blame onto the victim. This increases the energy flow and the feeding begins.


The Aloof is a person who either is very quiet or grants monosyllabic responses, and so makes the victim do all the work to maintain the conversation or even the relationship thus delivering the energy. They are heavy going.


The intimidator is a bully. He or she will find fault with a victim and threaten them either emotionally or physically. The normal response is a form of fear which “feeds” the bully a stream of energy.

This feels good so the bully continues and even increases the strength of the tactic to drain more energy.

Poor Me

The Poor Me is a person who accuses another of doing wrong to them – guilt trips them. The victim either responds with denial or lashes out – again a stream of energy – and someone feeding on the victim.

These behaviours are unacceptable

As you can see, none of these behaviours are acceptable in any direction. We do not wish to be on the receiving end, nor do we wish to use them.

It is important to understand where they come from so they can be eradicated.

We can take clean energy from the universe and release clean energy into our surroundings. This avoids the use of draining tactics.

Where do control dramas come from?

The primary dramas are paired. Each causing the other. They usually involve a person in authority and someone in a subordinate role. The most common is a parent and child. Another common pairing is in the workplace with a higher-ranking person attempting to feed from a lower or more subordinate person.

Say for example, that a parent is an Intimidator – a bully. The only response a child can make to break the control is to become a Poor Me – to guilt trip the aggressor.

Conversely, if the Poor Me is the senior, the child will respond to being guilt tripped by strong action – bullying. This creates the Intimidator behaviour.

Similarly, if the parent is an Interrogator, the child will attempt to cause their parent to stop by Aloof behaviour – ignoring the parent and making them work harder.

If the senior is an Aloof, the child will respond using Interrogation techniques to turn the tables. The Aloof must respond to the questions and accusations. And so, the roles are reversed.

Once someone has faced their opposite regularly, they usually assume their role more permanently and use it as a technique to control others. I have met some people who can use Poor Me or Aloof behaviour quite aggressively.

Clever people often mix and match and as their life changes and they gain more experience, they adopt other strategies.

I have experienced someone who was normally a Poor Me switch rapidly to Interrogator and then Aloof and back to Poor Me following up with Intimidator threats during the course of an argument (one sided – I knew what she was about and just waited her out).

The interesting thing is that she did not know the names of the techniques but had discovered and perfected them herself.

That was nasty, premeditated and certainly kept me on my toes!

She was a champion manipulator.

How do we handle control dramas?

Mindfulness and Discipline are critical here.

Once you have recognised someone’s tactic, you now may choose an appropriate response. The idea is not to respond to the trap laid, but to avoid the unpleasantness to keep your energy intact.

If you see any advantage, you may call the person on their poor behaviour. You may name the technique and state that this is inappropriate behaviour or simply leave the theatre of war. Play the adult and do not rise to the bait.

If you see any advantage, you may call the person on their poor behaviour. You may name the technique and state that this is inappropriate behaviour or simply leave the theatre of war. Play the adult and do not rise to the bait.

Mostly I just wait it out and let the other person drain themself. A good dose of Aloof is sometimes an appropriate response.

I certainly do not want such tarnished energy nor do I need to feel superior – that is a trap in itself.

If we do not want this sort of treatment, we certainly should not dish it out so…

ACT Consciously  – don’t REACT

Watch Your Energy

Watch the state of your energy. Is it high or low, happy or not good?

Get a feel for your energy swings, their seasons and reasons. Once you have determined your diurnal cycle and who is a passive (or active) vampire you can start to correct yourself.

Take particular notice of people with spiky and sharp energy.

Manage Your Presence

Stay in the now.

It is possible to work in the present, past or future. You must be totally present whenever or wherever you are. This requires a solid concentration of your attention and presence which comes from long practice in the now.

I remember being accused by a female attached to a friend of not allowing her car to start. I was innocent – at the time. After several rounds I grew tired of the constant whining and decided to do something about it. When I retired that night, I mentally went back to the appointed time and indeed stopped her car from starting by absorbing the ignition sparks. Petty, I know, but I was becoming very tired of her harping.

Time is not a big mystery – it is a series of parallel “nows” like a pack of cards – it only appears to be linear. When pulling tricks like this you must be totally present – in whatever piece of “now” you inhabit.

Create light as a habit

Constantly feed your environment with bright positive light energy sourced from above and below. This will heal your environment and all within the radius of your energy flow. It will also cleanse and strengthen you at most levels.

Body Consciousness

Your body is constantly talking to you.  If you fail to listen, the body will use discomfort first then pain then stronger pain to gain your attention.

There is an interesting conundrum with self-talk. You talk to your higher self via the basic self.

Event Consciousness

Be Mindful of the laws of the universe and how they affect you in any current or proposed situation.

The Universal Laws

If we are not mindful of them, we will get run over. Picture a steamroller and a banana.

Whether we believe it or not, natural laws abound. They affect the physical, mental and spiritual components of our lives. You could even call them Universal Laws.

Someone with a high degree of awareness will have observed these laws at work and can actively include them in their daily activities to ensure more success in their endeavours.

It is all about knowing and therefore understanding more of life. This leads to better understanding so problem solving is enhanced and so many more opportunities open up for you. Sort of a win / win snowball.

Be a lert – the world needs more lerts.

Yes – a bit cheesy I know – but true nonetheless.

This section of the site will spend some time and space covering how to use conscious living in all aspects of your daily life. I think the buzzword is “holistic approach”. Whatever – it works and that is enough for me.

All of these laws are really only aspects of the Law of Cause and Effect.

We live in an energy-based reality. All the above laws are really one. Create a cause and receive an effect.

  • Momentum describes how hard we push,
  • Correspondence states as above, so below or as within, so without, as the microcosm, so the macrocosm. We affect the reality around us, the effect affects us.
  • Attraction describes the effect from above mentioned by Correspondence.
  • Ditto abundance – there is enough energy for all, in fact for our purposes, it is effectively infinite,
  • Karma is possibly closest to Cause and Effect in that it recognises the effect of desire. Once again, we push energy, energy pushes back.

I see Karma as a training mechanism. It provides the experiences and exercises to develop the strength and understanding to achieve the next step in our development. Cause and Effect is the means, Karma is the guidance mechanism.

The concept of Karma as providing payback for past sins is a very small part of the teaching system. It is true only to the degree that it provides an opportunity to correct mistakes by learning incompletely learned lessons. It is not pay-back per se.

What are your thoughts? Please leave a comment if you would like me to continue this as a series of posts.

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